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The attitude towards our parents when we step into our own 40s. (Few Life Inspiring Words-4)

02 Mar, 2010 | FEW LIFE INSPIRING WORDS & POSITIVE SHARES / Articles on Music, Poetry and Life

The topic says it all but the following short story may hopefully bring more positive changes in our attitude towards the parents while we are busy stepping into our own 40s.

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 year old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow came on their window.

The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"  The Son replied "It is a crow".

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time,

"What is this?"  The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow".

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, “What is this?”

This time the son replied with a small expression of irritation and disbelief in his tone, "It's a crow, a crow". 

A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, "What is this?"

But now the Son was angry and went on to shout as he answered, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old & torn diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page.

When the son read it, the following words were there written in the diary :

"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow came flying and sat on the window in front of us. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated, rather I felt affection for my innocent child and his concern".

While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated, got annoyed and even shouted on his old father.

So….what had changed in all those years………it was only the Son’s attitude towards his father and nothing else. It seems to be unbelievable…….. but sadly it’s true that as we reach our own middle age milestone, our parents just not remain the same for most of the people who become more serious about their own families.

Very shamelessly we dare to think of them as a burden, which in my opinion is “The Biggest Sin of Life” and does not even give you any chance of repenting or apologizing.

And the other more scary thought is that in extreme possibilities, the moment one may realize his unforgivable mistake, his life givers may have gone back to the heavenly abode of the Holy Almighty and would never come back.

The article also reminded me of two great lines written in Punjabi by an unknown poet :

“Jadon Chhotey San Te Ladhdey Si, Maa Meri E, Maa Meri E,
Hun Wadey Han Te Ladhdey Han, Maa Teri E Maa Teri E”
(The above couplet describes the relationship between two brothers and their mother. It says, “When we were small kids, we used to fight that “Mother is mine, Mother is mine”. Now we are grown up but still fight that “Mother is yours, Mother is yours”)
I hope the story is able to make at least a small contribution in the life of all my readers.
(Thanks to Amit, for sending me this beautiful story in a mail)

Tags : Importance of Parents in our lives, Old Parents, Taking Care of Old Parents, Life Saving Quotes, Live Changing Quotes, Few Life Inspiring Words, Inspirational Stories, Breaking Families, Nuclear Families, The Trend of Small Nuclear Families.
02 Mar 2010 / Comments ( 10 )
narender singh nitta

good bobby......very good

Bobby Sing

Thanks Narendra for your kind comment.

And Keep Logging......Cheers!

RAFIQ JAVED

DEAR MR.BOBBY.

YOUR ARTICLE CAN MOTIVATE EVEN SPOILED / DISOBEDIENT KIDS / YOUTH.
I PERSONALLY OBSERVED THAT TODAY WE HAVE NO TIME, EVEN A FEW MINUTES FOR OUR OLD PARENTS.
MAJORITY OF PEOPLE DO NOT WANT TO KEEP THEIR AGED PARENTS WITH THEM IN THE SAME HOUSE. I THINK THAT THE PERSON WHO LOVES HIS PARENTS IS GOOD AND NICE. I SALUTE SUCH PEOPLE FROM THE DEPTH OF MY HEART. RAFIQ JAVAID - PAKISTAN

RAFIQ JAVAID

I AM GREATLY IMPRESSED BY THIS ARTICLE. IT IS SURPRISING FOR ME THAT YOU GIVE EXAMPLE IN PUNJABI THAT IS BASED ON FACTS. I AM HIGHLY GRATEFUL TO U. RAFIQ JAVAID PAKISTAN

Bobby Sing

Thanks Rafiq Javed for visiting and giving your appreciative comment.

The article really gives us a view of an ugly side of our society.

Thanks once again and Keep Visiting.......Cheers!

RAFIQ JAVAID
Dear Mr.Bobby,
Your opinion/views(To think parents as a burden is the biggest sin of life)are highly appriciable.
It is true,our parents are not always right and their opinions are not necessarily the same as ours,but we must be forever grateful for their services,and if not,it is only our own loss.Be good towards your parents,and your children will be good towards you.Rafiq Javaid.
RAFIQ JAVAID

Dear Mr.Bobby,
I am sending u an eye opening & heart warming post .A wake up call for all.This story reminds me that childeren are being molden at home.They imitate what they observe,what they see and hear,and are likely to remember and follow what adults do.So let us be a good role models to our kids,and to the young ones around us.

A STORY WITH WISDOM-A WOODEN BOWL.

A frail old man went to live with his son,daughter-in-law, and foue year grandson.The oldman\'s hands trembled,his eyesight was blurred,and his step faltered.The family ate together at the table.But the elderly grandfather\'s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult.Peas rolled off his spoon into the floor.When he graped the glass,milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law become irritated with the mess."WE MUST DO SOMETHING ABOUT FATHER" Said the son."I\'ve had enough of his spilled milk,noisy eating,and food on the floor\'\'So husband and wife set a small table in the corner.There grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed their dinner together.
Since grandfather had broken a dish or two,his food was served in a wooden bowl.When the family glanced in grandfather\'s direction,sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.Still ,the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence.One evening before supper,the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor.He asked the child sweetly,\'\'WHAT U ARE MAKING?\'\' Just as sweetly,the boy responded,\'\'Oh I AM MAKING A LITTLE BOWL FOR U AND MAMA TO EAT YOUR FOOD IN WHEN U GET OLD\'\'The four year old smiled.

The words so struck the parents that they were speechless.Then tears started to stream down their cheeks.Though no word was spoken,both knew what must be done.That evening the son took his father\'s hand and gently led him back to the family table.For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with his family.And for some reason,neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped,milk spilled,or tablecloth soiled.

Regards,
RAFIQ JAVAID.

Bobby Sing

Dear Rafiq Javaid,

Thanks for sending another story and I really appreciate it. But truly speaking this story has been known to many before and also has been used in few movies too as I remember.

Basically what i look into such stroies is a certain surprise and shock value which can shake the stiff and rude people around us and can make them think a litlle may be for only a few seconds, like the Carpenter Story. Now a days people have so much access to huge matter on net and all round themselves that we really need something very unique and hard hitting to hit them right.

So, I would like to request to please keep sending more unique and unknown stories which have that hidden element in it. And also please read one of my recent additions in this category at the site and give your comments for that too.

With warm wishes,
Bobby Sing 

 

RAFIQ JAVAID

Dear Mr.Bobby,
Your recent post is great artical of vital importance,and highly useful.Thanks tons for the article.
Regarding wooden bowl story,your comments are highly appriciale and based on facts.I am really greatful and thankful for your detailed comments with a lot of love.

I am sending you another inspirational story for perusal and further necessary action please.

It is a cold day in december.A little boy about 10 years old was standing before a shoe store,barefooted,peering through the window,and shivering with cold.A lady approached the boy and said\'\'My little fellow,why are you looking so earnestly in that window?\'\'

\'\'I was asking God to give me a pair of shoes,\'\'was the boy reply.

The lady took him by the hand and went into the store and asked the clerk to get a half dozen pairs of socks for the boy.She then asked if he could give her a basin of water and a towel.He quickly brought them to her.She took the little fellow to the back part of the store and,removing her gloves,knelt down,washed his little feet,and dried them with towel.

By this time the clerk had returned with the socks.Placing a pair upon the boy\'s feet,she then purchased him a pair of shoes,and tying up the remaining pair of socks,gave them to him.She patted him on the head and said\'\'No boubt,my little fellow,you feel more comfortable now?\'\'

As she turned to go ,the astonished lad caught her by the hand,and looking up her face,with tears in his eyes,answered the question with these words;\'\'Are you God\'s wife?\'

Regards,

RAFIQ JAVAID.

Bobby Sing

Thanks Rafiq Javaid for your kind words and another fine story based on soft emotions.

I just wish to add all the beautiful stories by writing more often and keep on going, so that each new day of my readers can be full of more light and colour.

HIS BLESSINGS!

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